Most people don’t even know everything that is holding them back from having the dates and love they crave. You may just think something is wrong with you, something that will probably never change:


But these excuses are meaningless to women who know how to confront every last one of their fears and irrational beliefs and then how to move forward to take love into their own hands. I can show you how to be one of these women. And believe it or not, IT’S EASY once you know what to do.

Ladies, here’s the problem: We are living our love lives like an old story stuck on repeat.We are “programmed” to think that what we want in love is either too much or unavailable from a partner. As women, we are never taught to trust what we need to feel fulfilled in our relationships—for whatever reason we may need it. Therefore, we never learn how to ask for what we need from men and love, much less expect to have it. 

We are conditioned to believe that having needs and being needy are the same thing. WRONG!  As human beings, we all have needs. We would never question having the need to breathe fresh air, or to drink and eat, yet we question our need to feel nourished in a relationship, to be emotionally fed by our partner, to give and receive romance and intimacy. Why? We have never been taught to recognize, clarify, and believe that we deserve to have the love we crave.

As a consequence, we decide that we have to compromise, dumb down, or become downright numb. Finding love as we define it is just too much trouble. We give up. Instead, we spend our time investing in relationships and situations in which we have more control: our kids, our work, our homes, volunteering, hobbies—even settling for men who don’t fulfill our needs just to tell ourselves we’re not alone.

But sometimes being alone is less lonely than being with the wrong man.

“So I talked with Lori. I told her about the great love story I’d had with Henry, and the disaster I’d had with Dan. By the end of the call, she’d helped me reach an amazing insight. I was so afraid of dating because, really, I didn’t want another relationship.

I just felt like that was the whole point of dating. It was an interview process to find one man. But that wasn’t what I really wanted. Lori helped me free myself to pursue love the way I needed it at that time in my life. I wanted companionship and fun.

I wanted to meet all kinds of people and just enjoy myself. Dating didn’t have to be a means to an end just because that’s what’s expected of women. Dating could be the end in itself. With Lori’s help, I realized that I didn’t have to limit myself to either trying to replace Henry or being lonely. I had other alternatives.

 Now I have a hiking partner, and another fellow who takes me to the movies every Tuesday night, plus three men I play poker with on Fridays. Then I go home and just enjoy my time alone, doing my own thing. It’s perfect. It’s what I want.”

—Fiona, Phoenix, AZ

How do I know this? Because I help women just like you every day, women who say they want love, passion, intimacy, romance—a relationship with a man that’s safe yet thrilling, that keeps them up all night too excited to sleep (among other reasons!). Yet these same women keep putting up obstacles to their own success. They can’t seem to get out of their own way.

I know how it feels. I’ve been there myself. And I want to share my success with you. I can’t bear to think of other women out there who are struggling alone like I did when there’s such a foolproof, simple method for finding clarity and momentum in dating, and for ultimately experiencing love again—or perhaps for the first time.

But I did figure out what to do, and I can save you the agony of having to figure it out for yourself, or worse, never figuring it out at all.

Fast forward to where my love life is now:

I have met the love of my life, and now I realize that I had no idea what love even was before. Every other relationship was just practice. Every fantasy I had about the man of my dreams was dull in comparison to the reality.

There was a time when I would hit snooze five times every morning, when I would have buried my head under the covers all day if I could have. Now I know how it feels to want to leap out of bed in the morning, not only because I’m excited to see him but because having him in my life has made even the moments without him a 1,000 times better.

Even before I met him, I was having a blast dating. I faced each date with a confident bring-it-on attitude that spilled over into every aspect of my life.

Every date was full of the most wonderful surprises, and I made lasting friendships with men even if we didn’t click romantically.

By freeing myself from my own self-imposed barriers, I discovered parts of myself I never knew existed. As I was getting to know men, I was also getting to know a whole new athletic me, an intellectual me, a funny me, and a sexier me than I’d ever imagined possible.


I went into every situation with men knowing that I could communicate exactly what I needed and wanted, with no manipulation required. And without the game playing, you’d be surprised at how often MEN WILL GO OUT OF THEIR WAY to meet your needs and desires.

Perhaps most important, I finally felt worthy of the love I wanted, and this was reinforced when the men I dated confirmed how lovable I was, simply because I was letting them see the true me, without all the emotional baggage, the fear and insecurity, the defensiveness.

Let me save you from having to sort through all the dating advice that’s out there, advice I read until my eyes ached (and trust me, after a lifetime of frustrations in love, I was getting pretty sick of my eyes aching). I know how scary it is to be facing the big unknown of dating again, and I know how much it hurts to put yourself out there, vulnerable, only to be rejected again and again, or to attract men who let you down in myriad ways.

I could have saved myself so much pain if I’d known then what I know now. Let me help you skip over the hard part and get right into what works.

It sounds too good to be true. I know how you feel. I really do. That’s why I want to be completely transparent with you. I want to tell you exactly what the class will involve so you can see for yourself that I’m not just offering a few feel-good speeches or a series of one-size-fits-all tips.

Finding Love on Your Terms is a series of 4 private group coaching calls with LIMITED AVAILABILITY to keep the class size small and personal. The class runs for 4 weeks starting December 1, 2010. Each class will include action items in writing for you to create your own personal dating plan for success!

In these calls, I will personally guide you in exactly what the title promises: how to find love on your own terms.

“I had all kinds of reasons to keep putting off love. I could put more time into dating after I got through the next big project at work, or when I got home from the next conference. I would set up an online profile as soon as I got through all the family obligations I had that year. My daughter was having her first baby, and she would need my support. My mother was requiring more and more care.

Next week, next month, next year . . . I just kept putting off dating again and again. I actually met Lori at a conference for entrepreneurs, where she was a keynote speaker. We got to talking over lunch, and I was telling her how busy I was and that I would get back into dating as soon as I had the time. Then she asked me when I would have the time.

Did I plan to be less successful in the future, freeing up my time from my career? Did I expect my family to stop growing and to stop needing and wanting me to be there as much as they did now? I guess I’d never really thought of it that way, but I was kind of 'planning' to date only if my life went down the tubes, which of course made no sense at all. Then she looked me straight in the eye and said softly, ‘Barb, do you think dating will be easier five years from now?

Do you think you’ll feel more confident and attractive?’ It was a difficult truth to face, but it was also the wake-up call that I needed. Dating was not going to get any easier. And I didn’t really want to be alone. I was just hiding behind my work and my family because, honestly, I was terrified of dating again. It was this completely foreign world to me. And I dreaded feeling vulnerable and powerless.

But it was time to suck it up, and if I hadn’t had Lori’s help in breaking everything down into easy, manageable steps, I think I’d still be home every Saturday night—probably working—instead of going out. I guess I just never realized how easy and fun dating could be. I look back at myself and wonder, what was I afraid of? And why couldn’t I have met Lori sooner?!”

 —Barb, Madison, WI

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Here’s THE MINIMUM of what you can expect from each week’s call:

Week 1 (December 1st) :  What’s Your Story?
•    Learn how we create our own stories and view the world through them.
 
•    Discover how these stories shape our beliefs, thoughts, attitudes, and actions—
      how our stories actually create our reality.

•    Learn how you can change your reality by rewriting your story.

•    Discuss the love stories you’ve created and lived. How are they working for you?

•    Learn how to change the story so that your future chapters reflect what you
      really want.

•    Explore how the impossible can become possible simply by telling a new story.

Week 2 (December 8th) :  Lessons Learned and Not to Be ReWritten
•    Discuss why we relive the same old stories over and over and how we can step
      out of the pain and look at them from a distance.

•    Learn how to take what your stories can teach you so that you can release
      the pain once and for all.

•    Use the past to distinguish your true preferences and needs in life.

•    Listen to what your stories say about what your deepest needs really are.

Week 3 (December 15th) :  Begin to Write A New Chapter in Your Life
•    Take your new story from head to heart and from heart to the world. Learn how
       to take action on the love story you create.

•    Learn how to clarify your needs and feelings.

•    Refocus your new definition of love.

•    Discover how to find your definition of love everywhere.

•    Learn how to surround yourself with people and situations that support your
      new story.


Week 4 (December 22nd) :  Walk the Talk, Living Your New Story
•    Learn how to communicate your needs and feelings effectively.

•    Walk through concrete steps for determining and highlighting what’s special
      about you.

•    Find out exactly how you can use what you’ve learned from the class in
      your everyday life.

•    Discover the many ways you can create new opportunities to find the love
      you want.

•    Open yourself up to feeling truly worthy of the love you deserve.




Who should attend the class?
How does this class work, exactly?
What happens on the Q & A call?
Will I have to talk?
What If I want to attend but can’t make the dates or times?
How does the forum work?
A lot of people offer dating coaching and classes—why should I pick your class?
What are my payment options?

Q: Who should attend the class?

A: This class is for women who are dating again after divorce, loss, or breakup. If any of the following apply, this class is for you:

•    You are tired of struggling alone. Deep inside you realize that being alone is not
     the answer.

•    Sometimes you lose your sense of self when you “fall” in love, and you have too
     many other important priorities to let this happen.

•    Having a meaningful relationship in which you feel heard, accepted, and understood
      seems like a pipe dream.

•    You need dating and relationships to be less complicated and more rewarding.

•    You are sick of dating men who are unavailable and unreliable.

•    Sometimes you date as the invisible woman, holding back who you truly are.

•    The thought of being disappointed one more time because you opened your heart only to
      find he could not meet your needs is unbearable.

•    Your previous relationships left you knowing what you don’t want. Now, you are ready to
      have what you want.

•    Sometimes you are afraid of what people think of you—not just your dates but also your
      kids, your friends, your colleagues.


Q: How does this class work, exactly?

A: The class includes 4 private group-coaching calls and 1 group Q & A call.

Each call will go beyond information. Knowledge is power, but insight and experience are powerful. Each call personalizes what you learn to apply to your unique needs and desires, with step-by-step methods for transforming your love life one amazing date at a time.

Q: What happens on the Q & A call?

I don’t want you leaving this class with any unanswered questions. In the Q & A call, I will answer the questions you have about what we learned in class and how to apply it in your specific situation. The Q & A ensures that you won’t walk away from what you’ve learned without knowing exactly how to make it work for you to create the dates you want and find the love that fulfills your every need.

Q: Will I have to talk?

Not if you don’t want to. You are welcome to just sit back and listen. I will not put you on the spot. If you want to contribute, however, you are welcome to. This class is customized for you. Come as you are. You’re safe to be yourself with us.

Q: What If I want to attend but can’t make the dates or times?

No worries! Every call will be recorded, so you can download them and learn on your time. If you can’t make every call (or even any of them), you can download the recording and still get all the information and action steps to start changing your love life right away.

Plus, you’ll have full access to the forum and receive a complimentary copy of my latest ebook, What Makes You Special? AND you’ll receive free my article “5 Reasons We Don’t Get the Intimacy We Crave” as well as a collection of the most popular Q & As from Get Up and Date™.

Q: How does the forum work?

Once you sign up for the class, I’ll send you instructions for accessing the forum and creating your profile. On the forum, you will be able to download recordings of previous calls, notes, handouts, and other useful material. You’ll also be able to meet and chat with other women in the class, share stories, ask questions 24 hours a day for Lori and your friends in the class to answer—and of course, tell us all about your successes!

The forum is a safe community where you can get support, empathy, solid information, and more than a few good laughs.

Q: A lot of people offer dating coaching and classes—why should I pick your class?

A: First off, this is not just “any” class. This is an Intensive Experience where I'm going to walk you through the EXACT steps you need to build an extraordinary dating life around your gifts. You'll learn how to shine on your dates and be rewarded with unbelievable experiences, meaningful connections, and yes, the kind of love you want most deep down inside. You're going to learn what makes you special, how to communicate your needs and desires in an authentic way that feels good to you AND to the men you date, and how to date and find love in a way that fits into your life (not the other way around).

Second, I've been looking around to see what's being offered by the myriad dating websites and coaches. I find it fascinating that so far, I have yet to see one that teaches you real-world strategies for creating amazing dates that lead to meaningful connections with exceptional men. Yes . . . finding love! I just don't get it. What good is a blueprint, roadmap, game plan or any of that if you don't know how to date in a way that gets you what you need? And what I love is that once you learn how to stop pursuing men and shift the energy so that the right men are pursuing you, you walk taller and attract even more ideal men, and the spiral just keeps elevating. I can't wait to show you firsthand how to make this shift!

Q: What are my payment options?

You get the best deal if you pay in full: $269.

We also offer a 2-pay option for a limited time: 2 easy payments of $149.50, processed in 21-day intervals.

But remember, my 2-pay ends November 25th, 2010 I’m about to start sending out the powerful bonus work to everyone registered. If you wait until the last minute, you’ll miss it. So go reserve your seat now, and once you’ve moved forward powerfully with that decision behind you, then you can check out the class material and watch how easily it all falls into place to support
your new love story!




Join other women who are in the same boat, navigating the often vast, rough waters of dating again after the end of a relationship. We can all learn from our shared stories, and we can gain strength to write new stories inspired by our potential to be far more powerful in our own lives than we’ve ever believed possible.

But the most important reason to join this class is not the comfort of camaraderie or even that I’ve been exactly where you are and can share what I’ve learned from experience. Although personal experience is valuable, evidence is even more compelling: The most important reason to join this class is that I will teach you practical, PROVEN techniques for changing how you love in ways that will forever change how you live. Experience the freedom that comes from knowing you are in control of your own life, that when you turn the page, you will decide what happens next.

I used these same techniques to dramatically upgrade the quality of my dates, and finding love followed naturally. (Hint: It’s not about getting new clothes or learning a set of lines “guaranteed to turn any man on”; it’s about healing the internal wounds that dating reopens and changing your attitude about love and men so that you can release yourself from reliving the same old story—without this change in story, you cannot succeed, but I’m here to show you that it’s actually very simple). Without changing your story, you’ll stay stuck, walking in circles and replaying the same plot line over and over. And we both know how that story ends.



Just one great date can be enough to get your confidence back. But imagine having DOZENS of great dates and how much opportunity and choice this can open up for you to create a lasting, meaningful relationship.

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This program is for you if
•    You agree to hold out for the possibility that love is out there for you.

•    You know that doing what you have been doing will only get you the same
      results you have been getting.

•    You understand that the effort you put in is the effort you get out of any program.

•    You agree to be open to having and feeling love again—or possibly for the first
      time.
•    You’re done settling for less than what you really want and undermining your gifts
      and self-worth.

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It all starts December 1, 2010—the first of a series of calls that will change the way you think about yourself, men, and love forever. After just the first call, you will begin to have insights into why your love life is leaving you frustrated, disappointed, even depressed. And you’ll see why this program is different. It’s all about acting on your insight, not waiting around for it to act on you.

This level of personal coaching would ordinarily cost more than $1,000.00, but I realize that in this economy, many women are simply not able to justify spending that kind of money on themselves. So I’m offering the ENTIRE class—4 private group coaching calls, with an action plan for each class, and a live Q and A session—all for only $269.
 


I know that’s a big promise to make, but it’s not an empty one. They’ve already changed the lives of the many women who have come to me for help. All of them are from different backgrounds, all come to me with different stories, but all have the same bright future—a life of love, as they define it, on their own terms.

I’m not offering anything I haven’t tried on myself and found to work with amazing results. In fact, I’d have to be one cold-hearted woman to keep these secrets to myself when I know firsthand how scary it is to be single again after the end of a relationship, to be trying so hard to find love—to ACHE for it—and to put yourself out there in the face of rejection, time and time again. I know how it feels to think, I’m too old, I’m too busy, I’m not attractive enough, I’m not witty enough, I’m just not good enough to find the love I crave. But telling myself these things only hurt more, and they certainly didn’t stop me from wanting love—they only made me feel like I didn’t really deserve it.



But EVERYONE DESERVES LOVE…including you! Give me a chance to show you how!

Give yourself a chance to feel worthy of love, to feel confident, every day, for the rest of your life, in your ability to communicate your needs in a way that gets them met, to share your desires in a way that has men falling all over themselves to fulfill them.

 We all have regrets in life. Don’t make missing out on this opportunity one of them.



I spent years learning a system of techniques that are SCIENTIFICALLY PROVEN to help us learn behavioral and communication skills that, if used properly, guarantee success in all aspects of life. One of the key discoveries I made while learning this system is that all these self-sabotaging fears, beliefs, and thoughts are completely untrue.  So here is your guarantee.

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I’m confident that when you join “Finding Love on Your Own Terms™ teleclass, you’re going to attend your first class and be thrilled. I also know that if you follow the steps and do the work, you will start creating the dates and love you truly deserve. Just to back that up, I’ll give you until the end of the second class to live with the work and REALLY decide if it’s for you . . . in your heart. If you decide it’s not for you, just let me know in writing before the third class begins and get a full refund. 100%! No reason needed.

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Register NOW and Receive These Valuable Bonuses:


The first 10 registrants who pay in full will also receive a one-on-one 30 minute telephone session with Lori.  Valued at $150!

Get immediate, focused attention that brings you immediate success. Feel the relief of knowing that you have the inside track to getting your specific problems addressed in the most rapid fashion.

Easy access to the online group forum. Here, get your questions answered and feel supported by your fellow classmates. Network and join forces to have the dates and relationships you design.

Because this class will jump-start your thinking and give you both the momentum and the direction you need to transform your love life, you are bound to have a bunch of questions racing through your head in between calls. You probably would love to know what other women are thinking . . . find out on the forum 24 hours a day. 

Free ebook: What Makes You Special?

For most women, focusing on what makes us special is the hardest part of changing the direction of our stories. We’re taught to be modest and humble, even self-deprecating. Recognizing that we’re special is hard enough—having to dig deep to see just how we’re special in every unique detail is nearly impossible for some of us. But if you can’t see what makes you worthy of love, he won’t see it either. This ebook will walk you through an honest appraisal of your strengths and how to make the most of them on your dates.

Free ebook: 5 Reasons We Don’t Get the Intimacy We Crave

Even when dating is fun—when we laugh with a man, talk easily about our lives, and have a good time being with him—something seems to stand in the way of the kind of deep connection we really want to have. What keeps our relationships from getting beyond the superficial? What can we do to get a man to open up to us and completely let his guard down without scaring him away? Register now for the class and find the answers to one of the questions most often asked of us at Get Up and Date™.

Free Q & A article

Read Lori’s answers to some of the most common questions we get asked at Get Up and Date, with tips on everything from style and getting ready for your date to online etiquette and getting second dates.